<p>A modern dictionary about us.<br>We define our words, but they don't define us.</p>
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Self-Defined seeks to provide more inclusive, holistic, and fluid definitions to reflect the the diverse perspectives of the modern world.
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With the foundation of vocabulary, we can begin to understand lived experiences of people different than us. Words can provide us with a sense of identify and allow us to find kinship through common experiences.
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<pclass="word__breakdown">Crazy is very commonly used as an adjective to embody a vast array of ideas, often not specifically. It is used so frequently that it sometimes is a filler. Crazy can also be used in a derogatory manner for someone with mental or psychiatric disabilities.</p>
<pclass="word__breakdown">By using ableist language, we are perpetuating violence against people who experience mental or psychological disabilities. Using this language perpetuates those systems and language of harm, regardless of our intent.</p>
<pclass="word__breakdown"> Monolinguist, English-only speakers often refer to people who don't speak English natively as "ESL" or say they are learning a "second language". More often than not, this is not true, as many people are multi-lingual with 3 or more languages</p>
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<pclass="word__breakdown">It makes false assumptions about English learners, centres English as the "default" or "expected" first language, ignoring that many people learn multiple (>3), non-English languages first.</p>
<li><aclass="word__link"href="https://benchmarkeducation.com/best-practices-library/supporting-english-language-learners-in-reading-writing.html#section_2"rel="noreferrer">ELL Glossary by Benchmark Education</a></li>
psychological manipulation tactic used to abuse by instilling doubt in the victim's own thoughts, observations, feelings by denying, misdirecting, and lying to them; originated from the <em>Gaslight</em> play (1933) and film (1944), where a man changes the lights in the house, while denying her observations of the changes.
<pclass="word__breakdown">Gaslighting reinfoces systems of power, as gaslighting abusers will tend to be in systematically dominant positions where they are intrinsically believed over their victim (e.g., white person over person of colour, man over woman, abled person over disabled person, parent over child, manager over worker, etc). Gaslighting is an abusive and oppressive behaviour and tactic.<br><br>The abuser can become in control of the victim, who now no longer trusts their own perception. The victim can become codependent upon their abuser, and internalise .</p>
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<aclass="word__link"href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting">11 warnings signs of gaslighting</a>;
<pclass="word__breakdown"> Minorities is not always accurate and is vague. As it deals with numbers, the term minorities can often be inaccurate, as is the case when speaking of communities of colour, who often outnumber white communities.<br><br>
By referring to a group as 'minorities,' it can suggest the group hasn't taken initiative to show up, thereby blaming the oppressed for systemic issues that prevent their participation.
<pclass="word__breakdown">By repeatedly referring to groups as "minorities," they are being infantised to their numerical representation and made to feel minor. The vagueness also abstracts the identify of the marginalised group, making it difficult to address why they are minoritised to begin with.</p>
groups resulting from social constructs have grant less power or representation compared to other members or groups in society
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<pclass="word__breakdown"> Minoritised places the emphasis on the power struggle, and on the systemic issues at play. It's also an adjective, which requires you to add "group" or "people" so it's people-first language</p>
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<pclass="word__breakdown">It removes the pejorative nature of "minorities".</p>
<pclass="word__breakdown">OCD is commonly misused to highlight personality quirks or fussiness, usually involving a preference for order or cleanliness. Use of 'OCD' as a noun or adjective in this manner diminishes the actual condition, resulting in reductive and over-normalised perception of a someone with these specific mental or psychiatric disabilities.</p>
By conflating arbitrary quirks or behaviours with OCD, we are invalidating OCD as a medical condition and the people who experience it.
Generally by using medically appropriative language, we are invalidating the existences of people with OCD, minimising their experiences, perpetuating violence against people who experience mental or psychological disabilities. Using this language perpetuates those systems and language of harm, regardless of our intent.</p>
Be more specific. Typically we can find an alternate definition by simply reflecting on what emotion we're really feeling. In this case, be particularly aware if the behaviour is actually unwanted or uncontrollable.
when an individual or group of power/majority/privilege (e.g., white, male, abled, unqueer, etc) loudly profess(es) their actions in the name of 'allyship,' while actively conducting harm to, taking focus away from, and generally being unhelpful towards the group they claim to support, often to receive praise and attention, without taking critical action to dismantle the systems of harm.
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<pclass="word__breakdown">Performative allyship detracts from the stories of the oppressed and the impact that oppression has on them in favour of the stories of the oppressors and their intent to help. The cost of performative allyship can also be that the stories of the oppressed people are appropriated, watered down, and inaccurately retold by people who should not be telling those stories.</p>
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<aclass="word__link"href="http://affinitymagazine.us/2017/07/09/are-you-practicing-performative-allyship/">Are you practicing performative allyship?</a>;
<aclass="word__link"href="https://www.theroot.com/is-this-your-queen-ellen-pompeo-growth-and-performati-1830593400">Is This Your Queen? Ellen Pompeo, Growth and Performative White Allyship</a>; <aclass="word__link"href="https://www.scarymommy.com/performative-allyship-what-it-is-what-it-looks-like-and-why-we-want-to-avoid-it/">Performative allyship: what it is, what it looks like, and why we want to avoid it</a>.</span></p>
the tendency for dominant white culture to respond to racism with defensive, dismissive, and angry responses; "a state in which even a minimum amount of racial stress becomes intolerable, triggering a range of defensive moves." (Robin DiAngelo).
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<pclass="word__breakdown">White fragility detracts from critical conversations about the systemic oppressors at play. The cost of white fragility is that it centres the feelings of white people while ignoring and invalidating the systemic harm conducted towards people of colour. White fragility also prevents white people from doing anti-racist work to unpack their socially internalised racism.</p>
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<pclass="word__breakdown"><aclass="word__link"href="https://robindiangelo.com/publications/"rel="noreferrer">White Fragility</a>, Robin DiAngelo; <aclass="word__link"href="https://www.theroot.com/tag/white-fragility"rel="noreferrer">White Fragility tag on The Root</a>.</p>
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women and people of colour
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often used as a phrase to encompass "non-white, non-men," seeking to provide solidarity for these two groups
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<pclass="word__breakdown">What happens to women of colour? As a woman of colour, I am split between both women and people of colour.</p>
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<pclass="word__breakdown">As such, it elicits feelings of erasure for women of colour. It also neglects non-binary individuals.</p>
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<aclass="word__link"href="#">people of colour and white women </a> or <aclass="word__link"href="#">people of colour, white non-binary people, and white women</a>, find ways to reframe why this dynamic exists, or omit
