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📝 Adds alt words to 'dude' (#169)

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* Adds alt words dfor dude

* Adds a few more alt words, and a note for some of them
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@ -4,6 +4,17 @@ slug: dude
defined: true defined: true
flag: flag:
level: avoid level: avoid
alt_words:
- wow
- oh my word
- yikes
- y'all
- friend
- mate
- fam
- folks
- pal*
- buddy*
reading: reading:
- text: Etymonline entry - text: Etymonline entry
href: https://www.etymonline.com/word/dude href: https://www.etymonline.com/word/dude
@ -20,3 +31,7 @@ When used as a discourse marker, it carries the connotation that the speaker bel
## Impact ## Impact
Regardless of the intent of the speaker, prefacing a statement with "dude" risks misgendering its audience and perpetuating a culture that favors traditional masculinity as the baseline for gender. Proponents of using "dude" commonly defend its usage aggressively by claiming that they use it in a gender-neutral way (which is not possible) and that anyone negatively impacted by its usage is wrong for not accepting that and chooses to apply the gendered interpretation. The argument fails to acknowledge that society dictates and reinforces gender, regardless of the individual interpretation. The ubiquity of that argument often deters those who are negatively impacted from bringing attention to the usage of "dude" as their experiences are often [gaslighted](/definitions/gaslighting). Regardless of the intent of the speaker, prefacing a statement with "dude" risks misgendering its audience and perpetuating a culture that favors traditional masculinity as the baseline for gender. Proponents of using "dude" commonly defend its usage aggressively by claiming that they use it in a gender-neutral way (which is not possible) and that anyone negatively impacted by its usage is wrong for not accepting that and chooses to apply the gendered interpretation. The argument fails to acknowledge that society dictates and reinforces gender, regardless of the individual interpretation. The ubiquity of that argument often deters those who are negatively impacted from bringing attention to the usage of "dude" as their experiences are often [gaslighted](/definitions/gaslighting).
## Alt Words Mindfulness Note
Before using colloquial terms of endearment, it's important to be mindful of power and context. While our intent may be to make people feel at east or comfortable, we can have the opposite effect. For example, "buddy" or "pal" from an older person to younger person or a manager to employee can feel infantilising or pejorative; this becomes exacerbated because of the power differential in the relationship. The person in less power often isn't in a position to correct. There's no one-size fits all modal; instead we should seek to address people with consent first and course correct. It's not about getting it perfect at first, it's about getting it right in the end.